Adversity naturally sounds like a bad thing, but an opportunity to overcome a difficult situation can actually be a valuable gift, say experts.
“Times of adversity are simply stepping-stones to live a better life,” says Coach Michael Taylor, author of the new book, “Adversity is Your Greatest Ally.” “They’re neither good nor bad until you choose to label them.”
Born in the projects, a victim of child abuse and a high school dropout, Taylor was well-acquainted with hardship in childhood, and has been no stranger to it in adulthood. His new book details his journey to success and happiness, offering advice to others seeking to do the same.
While Taylor cites success stories of notable scientists, artists and entertainers like Albert Einstein, Jay Z and Oprah Winfrey as examples of those who surmounted life’s hurdles, he firmly believes that anyone with the right attitude and habits can make an upward leap. Here, Taylor offers five keys he says are needed to overcome adversity.
• You must be willing to take responsibility for your life: You can’t blame your parents, where you were born, or the color of your skin. You can’t blame lack of education, an ex-spouse, or your age. Decide that you’re going to take 100 percent responsibility for your life and make it happen.
• You must be willing to leave your comfort zone: Fear is a choice. You can choose to let it keep you from accomplishing your goals, or you can feel the fear and do it anyway. Learn to become comfortable with being uncomfortable if you truly want to accomplish extraordinary things.
• You must commit to growth: Upgrading your inner software means that you’re willing to look at the subconscious beliefs that may be limiting your potential. Read books and take classes that provide you with the knowledge and support to accomplish goals and feel better about yourself. The key is committing to never-ending improvement.
• You must develop a positive attitude: If you’re truly committed to turning your adversities into allies, it is necessary to develop a positive attitude. A negative attitude makes life’s challenges more difficult to overcome.
• You must discover your unique gifts: Everyone has special gifts and talents. When expressed, you will find your true purpose in life. If you’ve forgotten what yours are or have given up on sharing them with the world, rest assured they are within you. Gifts are not necessarily something you do; they are primarily about who you are. For example, being loving and caring is a gift. Being intelligent and analytical is also a gift.
Don’t let fear keep you from achieving your goals. With patience and persistence, you can turn the page on a challenging chapter in your life and write your own story. For more tips and information about the book, visit AdversityisYourGreatestAlly.com.